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· September 5, 2008, 5:00 am
Refocusing the drinking discussion
To the Editor:
President Gutmann notes that she has not seen conclusive evidence confirming the claim "that the higher drinking age causes increased levels of binge drinking" ("Gutmann: Drinking-Age debate needed" 8/28/08).
She is wise not to enter the conversation about age limits for alcohol if it does not include the topic of the relationship between binge drinking and sex.
While some students abuse alcohol to act cool or rebel or perhaps revel in their new-found freedom, alcohol is used primarily to mask discomfort or fear in initiating sexual encounters or engaging in potential sexual relationships. Students use bingeing to find the courage to be sexual or, at least, to justify sexual behavior that their (usually unexamined) moral values would not usually allow.
Until we promote a public conversation in a safe venue that provides non-judgmental guidance and permission to be sexual before marriage and encourage the examination and development of constructive sexual ethics, students will continue to abuse alcohol. Unfortunately, it's the only way some can be sensual, sexual and pleasure-seeking young adults. When we unhinge sexual repression in our culture from alcohol, we will find that age limits for drinking is a less important conversation.
We need to open a helpful dialogue about the norms, values and ethics of being sexual people. Rev. Beverly Dale The author is president of the Christian Association at Penn




Comments (3)
Lily
December 31, 1969, 7:00 pm
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I think you're missing the point... it's not a commentary on consequences, but on premeditation. I think Reverend Dale is talking about TALKING, not just submitting eighteen year olds to the right. Should an eighteen year old think about what his or her "moral values" would allow, I'm sure that she would accept the decisions he or she would make. I think we may be in agreement that "people do what they want according to their own moral code" -- the issue is that not all teens have figured out independently what their own moral codes are. Also, all of those rights and abilities that you mentioned for eighTEEN year olds DO somewhat involve age. Think about what the reason is for allowing an eighteen year old to choose to enlist, purchase porn/tobacco, and vote.
22 year old
December 31, 1969, 7:00 pm
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We don't need a "discussion" about sex and morality -- people do what they want according to their own moral code. Sorry if it doesn't "fit in" with yours. Any discussion that needs to be had about alcohol and sex is unrelated to age; the same issues facing a 21-yr-old face an 18-yr-old. At 18, students reach the age of majority and are trusted to live on their own (and face legal consequences as adults), enlist in the military, purchase pornography and tobacco, and vote for elected officials. If 18 year olds can do all of this, surely they can be trusted to consume alcohol responsibly -- and face the same consequences as anyone else if they don't.
Elizabeth Mehan Calter
December 31, 1969, 7:00 pm
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